Make The Most of What You Have!
Most people go through life thinking, “Gee, my life would be perfect if only I had…”, constantly wishing for something else that, if it magically appeared, would allow them to live out their greatest dreams. The problem with this approach is that the “something” they think they need is never going to come their way in the exact form they imagine. And because it doesn’t show up in the way they expect, they spend their life waiting for it. And waiting. And waiting some more.
One of the great benefits of life coaching is that it can help you become more aware of these limiting patterns. Together with your life coach, you can develop more clarity about what you really want and different ways of getting it.
Stop waiting and choose your purpose
If you want something better for your life, there is a better way. The first step is to decide what you want to do; in other words, choose your purpose. Maybe you want to work with children, or perhaps your dream is to let your creative and artistic talents flourish. Whatever it is you want (it doesn’t matter what that is) you can get, but first you have to clearly identify it.
Why is this important? Because when you have a clear, defined purpose for your life you can set about finding ways to use what you have in ways that fit your overall purpose. Instead of waiting around for the “something” to drop in your lap, you can take inventory of the resources and tools you already do have and figure out how to use them toward your purpose.
Developing greater clarity around your goals and your purpose is one of the most important and valuable benefits of life coaching.
What are you going to do with those lemons?
You’ve likely heard the old cliché, “When life gives you lemons, make some lemonade”, and you’ve maybe even used that approach once or twice. But what would happen if you decided you didn’t want to make lemonade, but instead make something else? You could make a lemon meringue pie, lemon drops, or lemon cake. You could make a battery (yes, you really can!), highlight your friend’s hair, or brew up some lemon tea. Or you might even plant the seeds and grow your very own lemon tree.
The point of this is that whatever resources you have available – lemons, time, tools, creativity, or anything else – keep an open mind and find a way to use them toward your life purpose. This is a really important concept, because this is how you can keep working toward your purpose without waiting around for that special “something” to appear.
Sometimes the best opportunities are hidden
While it would be very nice to always have good things happen in your life, and the road to your purpose spread out smoothly in front of you, which is just not realistic. Everybody faces good times and bad times, lucky events and challenging events; there is no avoiding the inevitable ups and downs. That’s just part of being human.
The most successful people don’t have easy or smooth lives. Rather, they are smart enough to have set out a clear purpose and then keep their minds open to opportunities regardless of how they arrive. Even the most negative events – financial loss, natural disasters, relationship problems, whatever – always have some sort of “silver lining” if you remain open enough to find it. And quite often, that silver lining is a hidden opportunity that can move you forward, closer and closer to achieving the purpose you have set for yourself.
Purpose is part of each day
It’s easy to sit down and dream, imagining what you want to achieve in your life. It’s also easy to get stuck in the dreaming and planning mode, putting all of your energy into creating “the big picture” of where you want to go. You lay out a goal, decide on the milestones you want to reach, and then go on about your daily life. The problem is, your daily life does not include paying attention to your purpose so your overall goal remains just that – a goal.
Once you decide on your purpose, make it a part of each and every day. Keep it in the front of your mind, right there where you can constantly be looking for ways to move toward making it happen. In other words, start living your purpose right here, right now, in your current circumstances. Look for the little changes you can make along the way, each one getting you slightly closer to where you want to be.
The very worst thing you can do is sit around waiting for everything to be perfect before you start. Why? Because that will never, ever happen. Let’s say you want to buy a new car but don’t have enough money saved up. It’s easy to think you’ll never get to your goal amount unless the money arrives in big chunks at a time, so you spend your time and energy waiting and watching for it to happen. And you of course will end up waiting a long, long time.
Why not focus each day on saving at least a little bit of money toward your goal? When you buy a soda, set the change aside in a savings jar; instead of buying a latte, take the money you would have spent and put it in your savings account. This is a slow way to save money, that’s for sure, but it will eventually get you to your goal; and probably a lot faster than if you used the “wait and hope” approach.
Living with purpose every day and making the most of what you have is very easy advice to give, but it is a challenging way to live at first. We are so conditioned to want it all and want it now, that the skill of reaching a goal one small step at a time is something foreign to many people.
Be different. Be creative. Set your purpose and live it every day, no matter where you are at or what resources you have available. It will soon become a habit that in turn leads to long term success.
And if you want help with this, getting a life coach is a great way to get started.